According to the fictional character, House; everybody lies.
He’s probably right. I know I like every day. Did you hear that? I lie every, single day. I’ve probably even lied to you.
Want to know what my most common lie is?
“How are you?” People ask.
“I’m fine.” I reply with a smile.
The smile is the icing on the cake. If I’m smiling then surely I must truly be fine. If I wasn’t fine, I’d tell you, right?
Not necessarily.
People ask this question as a way of being polite, not because they have the desire or concern or time to know how you are. It’s more out of habit like, “wow, this weather sure is something, isn’t it?”
It’s a space filler. So instead of saying how I really feel, I tell people that I’m fine.
Besides, if you say how you really feel, some people don’t know how to react.
I once decided to tell people the truth for an entire day when they asked how I was. When I told them that my mind was racing and I couldn’t sleep at night because of the bad dreams they looked at me as though I had just told them I was planning a horrific crime. Like something was wrong with me.
Here’s the thing though, there is nothing more wrong with me than a person who has to wear glasses or take insulin or any other medication.
A part of my body doesn’t function properly. There are chemicals that get out of whack and cause me to not be okay…
And that’s okay.
I don’t need people to feel bad for me, or tell me how my life is better than so many others. I need people to let me know ow that it’s okay to not be okay.
Ask me what I do to feel better and if I’ve been practicing those things.
Ask me what you can do to help.
Would you tell a diabetic to just get over it? That it’s not okay to be diabetic?
No way!
Would you tell someone who needs contacts or glasses to just stop wearing them so they don’t become dependent on them?
Absolutely not!
Anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses are exactly the same as other illnesses. It’s not our fault that we have them and that a part of our body, our brain, doesn’t seem to work as well as it should.
We should never be embarrassed of our mental health issues. Everyone needs to quit stigmatizing people who have mental health issues.
I want everyone to know that it’s okay to not be okay!
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